Why are we in school?

Why are we in school?

Education number one, two, to work and develop your passion, talent , skills etc, three, a little time to build your social life, if you however  let social activity take precedence over the others, then you are not going to have any very long.

Don’t join the long line of unemployment, don’t get a new job standing on the unemployment line, tertiary degrees are not enough qualification to get you what you want, to get you where you have projected to go, it’s never enough.

Just like a soldier in the middle east in an extreme situation, a combination of your Education/ training, knowledge (hand gun) and skill set (talent, passion, interest, well……… skills,) is what guarantees if you are going to see the next morning or not. When people are being sacked in your offices, what stands you out? Your extra work, your uniqueness,(no one can do the thing you do even if you all receive the same training) because your instincts are different and you have worked and developed these instincts, your skills,  your commitments, your ideas etc. you have to be different, you have to do more, learn, learn, learn, practical skills, applied knowledge , push yourself, challenge yourself. Dare to be different.

Dreams without goals are just dreams, hourly goals, daily goals, monthly goals, yearly goals etc. goals on the road to achievement cannot be achieved without discipline and consistency.

I pray you keep your heels, sneakers, sandals, easy on foot wears etc far under you bed so that when get down on your kneels to get them in the morning, you remain on your kneels, right there on your very kneels, thank God for Mercy, For Grace and understanding, we all fall short of the glory, if you have to thank God for all he has done for you, that’s gonna be day. Denzel Washington

True desire in the heart for anything good, Is God’s proof to you, sent beforehand to indicate that it’s yours already. Denzel Washington

How do we stand out? How can we be different?

To be continued…

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“Keep your Eyes on Jesus” it is that easy... No one else. How to live forever continued...

The Bible has got just the answer for us “Keep your Eyes on Jesus” it is that easy… right?  

Keep your eyes on Jesus Christ, No one else.

Let us run the race that is set before us, looking unto Christ Jesus. Hebrews 12:1-2

Illustration:

“At the Good Will Games in Gdimonton, Canada, the Jamaican team was participating in the 4x100- meter relay. Those in the third leg of the race, all had friends competing in another race nearby on the same day. Now, while the sprinter was waiting for the baton, he looked up for a moment to try to see how his friend was doing on the other event, right?… understandable yeah! Big mistake, instead of focusing, and guess what? In the next moment, his partner who was to hand over the baton to him to continue the race, came up to him with the baton, guess what happened? He crashed into the waiting sprinter looking up at the display screen… Needless to say the Jamaican lost because one of their runners was looking at someone else.”  

Hello, who are you looking at? Christ or other Christians?

“The church is like a spiritual hospital; its members/ patients are in different stages of treatment or recovery, with the aim of becoming whole and better to finally be with Christ, be it your G.O, Imam, leader, Pastor, Rev. members, etc…. so when you look to Christians, you will sometimes be disappointed- but not when you look to Christ, Never.”

One day, Jesus Christ told Peter what type of death he would suffer, and the next thing Peter did was to ask of how John would die. Another person’s manner of death, another person…John Chapter 21:20-22  (please read before you proceed to understand the context, we all have bibles on our phones now so please…thank you) ….and you know our witty Jesus Christ, in his Wisdom, responded ‘ what is that to you? You follow me (John Chapter 21:20-22)

Have you ever watched a team rowing in the Olympic Games? They can’t see the finish line because they have their backs to the finish line so they keep their eyes on the captain, He guides them, he motivates them, he keeps them focused, he encourages them, he shouts, yes , but only in love, he shouts row row row! He gives them a cadence and keeps them on track. The word for you today is – keep your eyes on Jesus alone.”

 How do we do this? Read about him in the bible, how do you know anyone? You study them, you look them up on face book, you talk to them and they talk to you, it’s no different with Christ Jesus.

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The secret of living forever. We only live as long as we are remembered…

We only live as long as we are remembered…

Is Abel of the bible alive or dead? Is Enoch alive or dead, is Joseph alive or dead, to the Muslims, is Prophet Mohamed alive or dead?

The next time you plug an ear piece to your ears or a head set to your ears, think about them all… is Apostle Paul of the New Testament dead or alive? Are the disciples dead or alive, to mention but a few.

Think of loved ones, there are only dead to you if you stop thinking about them, your other siblings or relative maybe thinking about them and how much influence they had been in their lives, as long as their influence is still felt on earth, they remain alive. How do we know a president from a regular citizen? Influence …. If someone came from a place, off the grid, a place with zero information and exposure, and this individual has no idea who Buhari is, what would be the determining factor in telling him that this good looking Hausa man must be very important? Influence, yes that’s right. He sees everyone been affected by the decisions Buhari makes and how no one is paying attention to the man talking across the street. Influence is everything.

Hence, we ought to live our lives, affecting people positively daily, if we ever want to stand a chance of being remembered long after we are out of sight or out of this earth.

The big question is…How we do live?…

Get an insight on the next post please…

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AGEING WELL,THE KEY? 'CHALLENGE YOURSELF' GOD GIVEN CHALLENGES ARE FOR YOUR GOOD.

Isaiah 46:6

Even to your old age… I am he who will sustain you.

Isaiah 46:6

AGEING WELL

 KEEP THOSE BIG BRAINS RUNNING!

Doctor Marian Diamond, a researcher in aging, found that deliberately induced challenges are required to keep our brains healthy and functioning.

Illustration: In one experiment, a group of lab rats had food brought to them and all there did was eat, while another group had obstacles placed in front of their dishes/food. The rats that had to overcome challenges learned to solve problems more proficiently than the comfortable rats. The fewer problems a rat experienced, the faster its brain went downhill.

What does this tell you? Laziness is the worst, please sit back and put in a little more thought to this: Former president Chief Olusegun Obasanjo, He does not appear to be aging much yeah? You know, considering how long he appears to have been around. #wink. You know why? He constantly challenges himself to do more, to want to do more, never relaxing more than necessary, never chilling, why should young and vibrant ones spend more than 4 hours a week chilling? When there’s so much to be done! so much!

 Aliko Dangote? For the past 15years, He only gets better, fresher and kinda younger, makes everyone look forward to being middle age yeah? I know what you’re thinking, these guys are rich, yes there are, no doubt, however, did they get rich by sitting out/ hanging out in their teens or in their “young adulthood”? Did they watch so much TV? I am sure not; I for one, I watch too much television. Does this mean one shouldn’t relax? By all mean please do, only if you don’t any important activity or plan to engage in. however, I pray us to work work work, engage in meaningful activities , you would have the rest of your life to relax when you deem fit, now is the time to work, to gather, to plant. At this age you should work to learn not to earn, it’s funny when a regular graduate wants to be paid N 250.000 monthly in an actual job, not a public service office, forgetting that to be paid N 250.000 monthly, the value he/she should add / bring to the firm has to be worth well over N 620.000 monthly… this is a subject for a different time.

Exercise: Now am sure they are a lot of aged men in your environment,, go take a closer look, look out for two, isolate and observe them. (In your heart) don’t go about kidnapping the elderly please #wink, now pick out one who sits around doing nothing but wait for his or her monthly pension, and another who constantly challenges himself on almost daily basis, on jobs/works that we the young ones consider as “suffering” now monitor these two individuals or groups over the months/ years and see how fast the idle one deteriorates mentally as well as physically.

Back to our research: They also discovered that if you put twelve rats together in a cage, and gave them challenges ,their brain develop not entirely faster but better than when they had to face the same obstacle in isolation/alone. ‘This points to the need for communal living and association, our lives are made so much easier when we people live together peacefully and in harmony, contributing their respective quotas to the society’.

Back to our research: When researchers ran the same experiment that were 600 days old and older (the equivalent of 60 human years), the results were the same. The rats actually lived to be 800 days old and at this time, the researchers decided to show the rats love. The rodents had the same challenges as before, but afterwards, researchers would pick them up, hold them against their lab coats, pet them and speak very kindly. They would say “you are one sweet sweet rat, you now that?” or whatever it is you say to a persistent and outstanding rat. When they did this, these creatures did more than brake the 800days barrier. At 904 days, not only were they alive, they continually developed. The fact is they developed more mental resilience under challenging conditions because they were part of a community, whereas isolation caused their brain power to diminish. The basic fact is; to age well, you need a God given challenge, love, and good relationships.

Let the Nigerian people live in communion, in love, in peace and in fellowship with God together.  

Dale Carnegie: don’t critise, don’t condem, don’t complain. If you must, do these in love; if not just find a way to fix the issue instead.

(A Russian was in the market for brains on the black market, actual human brains (if you were wondering) and before him, were three brains up for sale, the merchant pointed out to the first brain being a German brain, valued at 63.000 (thousand) pounds, the second, an American brain valued at 58.000 (thousand) pounds and a Nigerian brain, valued at 27.000.000 (million) pounds, the Russian buyer goes on to ask why the Nigerian brain is so expensive, the merchants says” oh its brand new, it’s never being used “

Hence the potentials are all untapped and locked up waiting to be explored. Get it?

“One time, in an argument, a colleague said to me ‘oh yes, I know your brain is  very expensive’, I felt good , really good, until I came across the piece above”.

Warm regards

@dandaviddolph

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Small, Practical and Cost effective Principles of Persuasion in our daily lives.

These SMALL, PRACTICAL AND COST EFFECTIVE PRINCIPLES LEADS TO BIG DIFFERENCES IN YOUR ABILITY TO INFLUENCE AND PERSUADE OTHERS IN AN ETHICAL WAY... 

To harness the power of Persuasion, these principles are to be understood and employed ethically. 

1.RECIPROCITY 

2.SCARCITY 

3.AUTHORITY 

4.CONSISTENCY 

5.LIKING 

6.CONSENSUS 

I know we all are born persuaders, when was the last time a kid, your kid, your nephew, your niece, a cousin got you to do a thing for them? a thing you originally didn't set out to do, a thing you probably said to your self, "I wont give him/her this today, no matter what": or whatever it is you say to yourself in preparation for disciplining a kid. However we all fall for that innocence in their eyes, their sincere but false expressions, for parents, we see ourselves in these cute little creatures as they look directly into our eyes and ask for Favours, Permission and what not... YES WE ARE BORN PERSUADERS: as the earth rotates, you know, bringing about day and night, a few of us gradually transform into master persuades, as in any academic degree in the tertiary institution, all one need do is dedicate time into reading in-between the lines. To acquire a skill or some special knowledge, there is  nothing seven (9) months of intensive and diligent training can not do,think of it, what did you study in college for 4-5 years?, now assume there were no holidays, you had restricted fun time and there was a total eradication of irrelevant activities! you should had graduated in a year and dedicate the rest of your time into practicing. still have doubts? how long does it take to convert a full blown civilian at age 18-24 in to a soldier? takes even less to convert older civilians to privates and these guys are the heart of the military. 

For those who want to pick up tips that can be used immediately in family dealings, business transactions, negotiations, interpersonal relations etc, effective in 39 minutes, assuming you complete reading this post and pause in-between for it to sink, Two or three of the aforementioned are totally based on your abilities while others are based on the mind set of your targeted audience which is a good thing and it is what we want. 

1.  Reciprocity: The power of having someone thinking they owe you a favour is limitless. 

Most favours money won't earn. In other to receive more, you most likely should give. This is not to say that you won't receive if you don't give though.  

Here's an illustration in the Nigerian context: You go to an uncle to ask for funds tuition fees, he has it in mind to give you N35000 for a N31000 tuition fees, you get to his house with gift items worth less than N2000 as well as cakes and candies for the kids...yeah!  This goes to tell him you know what you are doing, you have some level of wisdom and courtesy and he thinks you are probably worth investing on. This goes on in his head without him necessarily processing it consciously. Automatically his mind is conditioned to change the figure, yes he was to give you your fess no doubt but by giving a little, it appeals to his consciousness and his subconscious to reciprocate the gesture, and almost immediately he goes in and comes out with a N50000(more or less) #wink.   This is applicable in different other sceneries,  the rest is up tou you really to think of a way of giving just the right kind of gestures to unlock the power of reciprocity.

2.Scarcity: Generally, people would want more of the things can have less of.  
Remember the aphorism, "Absence makes the heart grows "funder" ? Bozinga!!! Yes... That's as simple as it gets. Make your brand scarce by telling them what they stand to lose if there don't get on board asap.

Illustration: Once a deal goes online on an e-commerce site, dealdey.com, Jumia.com, konga.com yudala.com etc with a LIMITED TIME OFFER tag or a LIMITED STOCK AVAILABLE tag, sales of the item sky rockets. It tells the targeted audience you are trying to get (persuade) to buy your product  that there have a limited time to make up their mind and availability of stock is limited so they should skip the lengthy decision making phase and go ahead right to making a  purchase. For the Principle of scarcity to be effective your brand /proposal has to be unique as it is in personal relationship, you have to be unique to be missed, you have to be appealing, you have to be relatively good, the heart can then"consider" growing "funder "in your absence #wink.

3. Authority: People will instinctively follow the lead of a credible and knowledgeable expert.

In a civil dispute, who would you listen to? who would you be more comfortable handling the situation? a regular passer by, a police officer in uniform, a military personal on civilian outfit or a kings man/ states man?
Illustration: if you walk into two sales representative offices at different times and locations, for the first sales rep office, his 1 Billion worth of sales deals over 20 years displayed all across the room and at the other office, nothing of such... who would you go back to the next time you are looking to sell or buy? 

A lawyers office where his accolades are displayed vividly for all to see,  his list of all court cases won, all cases that didn't get to trials e.t.c. and in another lawyers office, not so much, what would your line of though be?

Identifying authorities gives you the utmost confidence in the abilities of whom you've come to or who you've choose to represent you. 

Quick question :
A two star-general and a one star-general with a medal of honour who would you pick to be a part of your security detail? Tough call?
For corporate organisations,SME's : get someone to blow your whistle for you while you spend more time in finding solutions and closing deals for your firm; a front desk executive should take calls and read out your portfolio to clients and prospective clients...
Illustration: Welcome to Puzzles... oh that, please hang on a second, I will put you through to our top sales representative, he has over 20 years experience in sales with over a billion naira sales under his belt.........
This alone brings comfort to the listener. 

4. Consistency: Whatever technique or tactic you employ,  be consistent with it.  

This helps defines your character and the content of your character is a major tool is Persuasion. 
illustration: if one is to begin and coordinate a "keep the University of Calabar clean" initiative, he passes a hand bill around for couple of weeks in support of the cause "keep the University of Calabar clean",for a month,  he comes again in the following weeks with another hand bill SAY NO TO CULTISM and a week or month later, yet another,  LET'S SAY NO TO TRIBALISM... Compare the response from his audience to one in which in the first week, he brings a "keep the University of Calabar clean" hand bill and the next month, he brings in a banner "keep the University of Calabar clean" and in the months to come, he set up a billboard with the same "keep the University of Calabar clean"message,  now you see diversity and creativity in his consistency yeah?

Quick question: how would his audience receive, treat and and support his initiative in comparison to the first? 

5. Liking: People often say let's go straight to business... time is money. 

While this is  time effective, it aids you lose potential clients before you bring them to the negotiations table even. If already at the negotiation table, this would prolong negotiations and few times unprofessional conducts from both parties.

Time is Money yes... However in the art of Persuasion, it's totally wrong.
What you want to do is: Exchange  pleasantries and personal information, identify similarities, ask for pictures of family members and their general well being, THEN BEGIN. always remember, Genuine compliments comes before you get down to business. 

6: Consensus: Rather than relying on our own ability to persuade others, use others peoples records to persuade. consensus totally rocks. we humans are uncertain. 

people will look into the actions and behaviors of others to determine their own

Using consensus in negotiations is an amazing tool especially when the persons we are in negotiations with are uncertain. 

 Point out to what many others are doing particularly what many similar persons are doing and how in turns helps the world, city, people (humanity) in someway. People will look to the actions and behaviors of others to determine their own. 

Illustration: the next time you walk into a road side eatery and see this post at almost every turn "70% of our customers show appreciation for our  services rendered by donating an amount equivalent to their satisfaction into this jar, donations at the end of the year is used to feed, clothe and pay bills of those in need"  What would your reaction be to this consensus post?
These SMALL, PRACTICAL AND COST EFFECTIVE PRINCIPLES LEADS TO BIG DIFFERENCES IN YOUR ABILITY TO INFLUENCE AND PERSUADE OTHERS IN AN ETHICAL WAY... 

Warm regards,
@dandaviddolph

inspiration: INFLUENCE AT WORK

School pupils getting educated under a tree in 2015. They need to be encouraged. They are discipline and determined. ‪#‎impactworldteam

We all have dreams and we all pray to achieve our dreams, definitely for the serious minded individuals, concerted steps are taken to actualize these dreams, Let's go the extra mile and take a step further to give helping hands to others. Help each other achieve our dreams? ‪#‎IMPACTWORLDTEAM‬, it's kinda our responsibility, it's our passion, it's our dream, it a mission we are committed to fulfill by the Grace of God. Join us, Let's make our world a better place, Let's make our generation one to be remembered. We can if we say we can.

We derive joy from making others happy, putting smiles on the faces of others; we are proudly ‪#‎IMPACTWORLDTEAM‬ # God bless this dream. Yala ,Cross River State here we come.

We all are the leaders of our tomorrow, our tomorrow is now, our tomorrow is today, our tomorrow is the present, start now and start with what you have, what you can do now is the only influence you have over your future.
Let's Influence the present to shape the the future.
Those who can predict the future are those who help build it. Anyone and everyone can influence an entire generation. ...
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School pupils getting educated under a tree in 2015. They need to be encouraged. They are discipline and determined. ‪#‎impactworldteam

One of the many many pupils without a complete set of school uniform. ‪#‎impactworldteam
Day 2: A problem solved. ‪#‎Impactworldteam‬